She said we needed to talk. I became anxious. We had the conversation and it was nothing I had imagined. For the first time, a series of negative complaints or observations didn’t follow the “we need to talk message”. Instead she told me all the things I had been doing right and how much she appreciates it. I didn’t know how to react but I felt some sort of relief. I realized I was anxious and because all the previous women I had dealt with only ‘need to talk’ when there’s an issue. But she was different, a breath of fresh air, seeking out the positives in our encounter, whispering words of affirmation and reassurance.